Category Archives: Life’s Extras

DEALING WITH PAIN

24. 05. 2018|| PAIN

I have emotions.

I get happy.

I am strong.

I am bold.

I am super confident, sometimes its taken for being too blunt.

I easily adapt.

I laugh a lot.

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EXTROVERTED INTROVERT

Mar 08, 2018 | Musings

Oh well, if there’s any word like that, if not I just formed it 😁😁😁

It’s a beautiful cool Monday evening on this side of Africa, struggling to get home with this annoying tummy ache that came as a result of a drinking competition (please don’t ask me for details) as I read something about being an extrovert and introvert and found myself in it. I decided to talk more about it. 
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Have An Experience

Jan 20, 2018 | The Moments




I keep asking myself if this is all I’m going to do with my life. Keep wondering if I was created for more than trying to jeep up with life, go to school, do the regular female chores, sing in the bathroom (oh, that fun BTW), live a vicious cycle?

Lately been torn in between tempting life decisions, damn… You know now I can see reasons with great entrepreneurs who talk about dropping out of school to pursue passion, invent something or establish an idea. It seems as though no one sees what you’re seeing, everyone cares about you but then only you know what’s in it for you! At this point, I call on the El Sali, the Lord God my strength, for strength in my inner man to succeed, to move on, to lead me into the truth and to guide me all the way through…. Continue reading Have An Experience

Back-To-School

September 13, 2017 | Get Set; Go.

Summer is over! 

Did I see a little frown there, oh my! 😁. How was the summer….. Well outside the hurricane, floods and disasters that graced the news this period, I’m thankful for a new season! 

It’s the time where parents rush out to buy new school items for their children, school kids settle into their classes as they get acquainted with their classmates and teachers, college and university students are not left out; in the midst of the new school season how can one stay up to game with all the activities : assignments, early classes, school runs etc. 

Here are ideal 5 steps to keep you going. 

  1. Get an Organizer. This is a to-do list of all your daily activities lined up in order of preference and urgency. It helps you stay organized. It’s advised to be deliberate about this, it helps one stay focused.  
  2. Have an alarm. I know right, alarm, really? Lol, well it does help. Alarms remind us when there’s a lag behind time, whether it be before wake up time, or after. One can set goals with alarms for start and stops. 
  3. Engage the previous night. I arrange 50% of my day’s work load the night before, this is because on that day I can get so worked up that it’s easy to miss out on important stuffs. 
  4. Set Deadlines. Deadlines helps us focus. Breakdown the goals into achievable milestones that can help you keep track of what you’re doing thereby keeping your eyes on the deadlines. 
  5. Stay true to yourself. It’s normal to get worked up and mix a lot of things, you might even miss deadlines and keep postponing your alarm 😉 well, don’t stop trying, keep at it and soon enough you’ll get used to it. Habits aren’t formed in a day! 

What other tips are you using during this period? Love to share? 

Cheers, 

Amara Chukukere 💞 

What happened in Harvard? 

June 7, 2017 | Awards. Speeches. Successand Life.

Hi guys.

Ok, I’m sure by now we know what transpired weeks back at Harvard (my dream Uni 😁). It was their 366th Commencement Day held in tercentenary theatre on the 25th of May, amidst the rain and gloomy weather which had notable dignitaries in attendance amongst which were; Joe Biden, former US vice president; who spoke at the Class Day (this is a less formal prelude to commencement exercises), Sally Yates, former US acting Attorney General; who spoke at the Harvard Law School’s Class Day and a host of honorees. Students were rewarded, parents were definitely proud and alumni bonded again.

The facebook founder and CEO, philanthropist and co-founder; Chan-Zuckerberg Initiative (CZI); Mark Zuckerberg, (who received a honorary award) was the principal speaker for the day and his speech has been all over the internet with applauds and definitely, critical reviews.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“It’s not enough to have purpose, create a sense of purpose for others” – Mark Zuckerberg

 

I went online to watch how it went down, and I must say impressive! I had goosebumps watching every detail, It was indeed a memorable one with great speeches; or so I thought, until I went down to the comments sections. Damn! It was super discouraging. Here I was feeling all fueled up by Mark’s speech and someone; people didn’t seem to wear my shoes on this one. Shades were thrown at like one of those GOT war seasons, lol. (P. S. You need to see the trailer of GOT Season 7 🙌😎). Different reasons emerged: from him lacking in the knowledge of economics, to him being sarcastic; oh well how much do we know from here.

Well, no matter how good you are, or what good you’re trying to portray, there would always be someone who doesn’t agree with you for that! Finally, just learn to deal with it, but hey, establish a ground where your good is far greater than your not-so-good. On the other hand, conservative criticism is healthy, especially who its coming from and what it’s addressed to.

Nevertheless, here are some quotes and great nuggets for success that went down in history at Harvard:

Rev. Walton 
“We need you to use your moral imaginations to draft cultural alternatives so that we can have a brighter future for those who come behind us”. 

He said this calling on them to imagine a world free of hate and hunger, prejudice and despair, inequality and inaction.

Sally Yates 

“Over the course of your life and your career, you too will face weighty decisions where the law and conscience intertwine, and while it may not play out in such a public way, the conflict that you’ll feel will be no less real, and the consequences of your decision also significant.”

“You have to decide what you believe is worth fighting for.”

“We are all better than our worst moments but sometimes we’re not quite as good as we think we are, either. As bright, talented, and driven as all of you are right now, you need to give yourself the space to develop into great lawyers.”

“The safest course is not always the best course.”

“Being bold, taking a risk and owning it, isn’t easy to do, and the instinct for self-preservation may continually draw you to the safe, risk-free course, but I urge you to resist that instinct. Not only is a life of hedging your bets unsatisfying, but it means you’re unlikely to make much of a difference.” 

Joe Biden

“Don’t fool yourself into thinking that disengaging from the system that you think is broken will hold you harmless from the system’s failures.”

“In fulfilling potential and destiny, it’s absolutely essential for you to engage in the world around you, engage just like you did in campus.”

“You must maintain that determination and commitment to making things better.”

Former vice president, USA, Joe Biden

“Do not succumb to pressures that value ‘the social trappings of success rather than really making a difference’, but choose what’s best and most important to you rather than craving to other people’s perceptions.” 

Mark Zuckerberg 
“It’s not enough to have purpose, create a sense of purpose for others”. 

“Ideas don’t come out fully formed. They only become clear as you work on them”. 

“We often don’t do the bug things because we’re so afraid of making mistakes”.

“Create achievements that gives everyone in our society a role”. 

“We need to have a sense if purpose and stability in our own lives before we can open up and start caring for everyone”. 

Hawa Abdi Dhiblawa; a great woman.

Outside Zuckerberg, these are the distinguished individuals Harvard honored with awards.

Norman R. Augustine, Doctor of Laws. 

He is the former chairman and CEO Lockheed Martin Corp.

Dame Judi Dench, Doctor of Arts. 

She is a celebrated actress who has outstanding performances in both classical and contemporary roles. I remember her for her role in James Bond films.

Dame Judi Dench; boss woman.

Huda Y. Zoghbi, Doctor of Science. 

A professor in the departments of pediatrics, molecular and human genetics, neurology and neuroscience at Baylor College of Medicine. She is also an investigator with the Howard Hughes Medical Institute and the founding director of the Jan and Dan Duncan Neurological Research Institute at Texas Children’s Hospital.

Sandra M. Gilbert, Doctor of Laws. 

She is a leading feminist literary critic, author and distinguished professor emerita of English at the University of California, Davis.

Hawa Abdi Dhiblawa, Doctor of Laws. 

She is a Somali human rights activist physician and the country’s first female gynecologist.

James Earl Jones, Doctor of Arts. 

He is an acclaimed actor.

John Williams, Doctor of Music.

He is one of America’s most accomplished and successful composers for film and the concert stage.

Walter E.. Massey, Doctor of Laws. 

Chancellor and former president of the School of the Art Institute of Chicago (SAIC).

Walter E. Massey

Michael Rabin, Doctor of Science. He is the Thomas J. Watson Sr. research professor of Computer Science at Harvard University, helping to shape the field of theoretical computer science and actively contributes to major problems of encryption, privacy and internet security.

So what really went down in Harvard? Success stories, achievements, glory, merriment, a huge relief 😂 etcetera etcetera…. In all, as I look at the honorees and graduants, all I can see is the sweetness of success and reward for diligence, despite the demanding and sacrificial process. I’m sure if we ask these individuals, one by one, how they were able to come to this point, we hear the different situations and circumstances they each had to face, challenges defeated and determined spirits to succeed.

I’ve realized the importance of goal setting, it helps one stay focused. Accomplishments won’t come in a flash! They happen when we work towards our goals, no matter how little. I believe that consistent diligent little steps will definitely turn into big results.

See you at the top!

Amara 💝

Huda Y. Zoghbi

ReferenceHarvard gazette 

Images: Harvard photography.

Another Phase 

January 3, 2017 | A New Year.

 

“As we enter into 2017, remember to stay on message don’t get distracted. Shut your eyes and ears to whatever doesn’t contribute to your vision. If you can give yourself just 3months to know nothing else apart from pursuing what is set before you, you will be amazed at your progress – Poju Oyemade” 
It’s a new phase, a long epistle won’t be needed but then what have you learnt in 2016 and what changes are you willing to make in 2017? 

I can’t really say that I made resolutions for the year; for me I’d just continue where I stopped.

Let’s do this…. 

Happy New Year and welcome to another phase of life. We call the shots so it’s our choice to make! 

P.S. It promises to be an interesting and great one on the blog this year. Keep up!

Cheers… 

Amara 🎶

You can be mentally strong!!!

September 17, 2016 | Personal Notes 

Welcome……. 

The holidays are over and school is back in session. I definitely can’t wait to meet the new set of kids in my class, sounds like fun and fun, I guess 😁. Over time, I’ve learned to work with young kids and it’s amazing, I do not only teach them but I learn from them. Oh well, after 6 hours of intensive back-to-back lectures, I’m here sitting under the hair dryer in this cool salon watching Africa Magic trying to look sleek for Monday and I come across something interesting on social media which talks about mentally strong people.

Yes, strength doesn’t only come in the physical but also in the mind, the ability to handle situations inwardly tells a lot about us. I’ve decided to share it here. Enjoy….

According to Amy Morin, as a mentally strong individual:

1. You balance emotions with logic

“Mentally strong people understand how their emotions can influence their thinking. In an effort to make the best decisions possible, they balance their emotions with logic.”

2. You choose productive behavior

“While it may be tempting to make excuses, complain about other people, and avoid difficult circumstances, mentally strong people refuse to waste time on unproductive activities.”

3. You feel confident in your ability to adapt to change

“Mentally strong people know that although change is uncomfortable, it’s tolerable. They focus their energy on adapting to change, rather than resisting it.”

4. You face the fears that hold you back

“While mentally strong people don’t need to conquer fears because they have something to prove to others, they do strive to face the fears that hold them back.”

5. You learn from your mistakes

“Mentally strong people don’t hide or excuse their mistakes. Instead, they learn from them.”

6. You balance self-acceptance with self-improvement

“Mentally strong people accept themselves for who they are, while simultaneously recognizing their need for personal development.”

7. You genuinely celebrate other people’s success

“Mentally strong people cooperate – rather than compete – with those around them. They don’t feel as though other people’s success somehow diminishes their own achievements.”

8. You are comfortable living according to your values

“Mentally strong people make decisions with relative ease because they understand their priorities and they live according to their values.”

9. You focus on sharpening your skills, rather than showing them off

“While some people seek validation from others, mentally strong people are less concerned about gaining recognition. Instead, they’re intrinsically motivated to become better.”

10. You live an authentic life

“Mentally strong people are true to themselves. Their words are in line with their behavior.”

11. You view life’s hardships as opportunities for growth

“While hardship causes some people to grow bitter, mentally strong people let adversity make them better.”

12. Your self-worth depends on who you are, not what you achieve

“Mentally strong people feel good about themselves, whether they win or lose.”

13. You practice delayed gratification

“Mentally strong people view their goals as a marathon, not a sprint. They’re willing to tolerate short-term pain when it can provide long-term gain.”

14. You bounce back from failure

“Mentally strong people don’t view failure as the end of the road. Instead, they use their failed attempts as opportunities to gain knowledge that will increase their chances of success in the future.”

15. You’re a realistic optimist

“Mentally strong people are able to look for the silver lining and think on the bright side, but they don’t allow their optimistic tendencies to blind them to reality.”


16. You accept personal responsibility for your choices

“Mentally strong people don’t needlessly beat themselves up, but they do accept complete responsibility for their actions.”

17. You express gratitude

“Rather than exclaim they need more, mentally strong people acknowledge they have more than they need.”

18. You focus on what you can control

“Mentally strong people are effective and productive in life because they devote their resources to the things they can control.”

19. You engage in active problem-solving

“Mentally strong people don’t dwell on the problem – instead, they create solutions.”

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20. You’re open to learning more from all that surrounds you

“Mentally strong people are constantly learning from their circumstances and the people they encounter every day.”

21. You work on your weaknesses, rather than masking them

“While many people work hard to disguise their vulnerabilities, mentally strong people invest their energy into improving their shortcomings.”

This is an update of an article originally published by Steven Benna.

Source: Business Insider

Sometimes situations from the past can affect our mental strength but I think we should always find balance. God’s Grace is always sufficient all we need to is ask, receive and walk in it. 

Cheers…